Having just completed the first decade of the 21st century, I believe that if we as Friends are honest we will have to admit it has not been a time of much unity or growth. Although there have been some bright spots like the work of Convergent Friends and the Young Adult Gatherings that have brought folks from all the branches and traditions of Quakers together for some memorable weekends, we pretty much remain a divided people perhaps more polarized today that at any point in our history. Thousands of dollars have been spent by Quaker organizations and communities on consultants to help us identify and develop purpose and vision; yet many of us are still floundering. Traditional and well established Quaker institutions are struggling to survive in our current economic climate. In many places the future does not look bright for the Religious Society of Friends.
It seems to me that our identity and purpose remain rooted in those things for which our Society has stood since its inception, a fairly unique set of spiritual understandings which we refer to as the testimonies. Convergent Friends derive their name from conservative meaning those core values which have identified Quakers through the years, and emergent which speaks to the present, thus saying in their very name we are seeking to live out traditional Friends’ testimonies in a way that is meaningful and relevant to the world in which we live. How do we do that? Maybe a good starting place is with one another. What would it look like if we applied our traditional testimonies to the ways we interact with one another?
1) Simplicity – as originally understood by Friends, simplicity was about not being overly encumbered with the things of the world, not just material things, but giving too much of one’s time to the world and its pursuits rather than living out of a place of simple trust in God. What if we made an intentional decision to live that way corporately as well? What if we trusted in God’s ways rather than the world’s ways? Rather than playing politics and making sure that those with whom we are in agreement are in positions of control and power, what if we got ourselves and our agendas out of the way and let God have control of our monthly meetings, quarterly meetings, yearly meetings, and other Quaker organizations? In the Yearly Meeting to which I belong there has been a power struggle going on between left and right, liberal and conservative for as long as I can remember. And along the way folks have stooped to underhanded and less than honest ways to stack committees with people from “their side” in order to be sure they have control of the Yearly Meeting. What if instead of asking ourselves what we want we simply trust God to work through the process without our assistance?
2) Peace – may be our greatest area of doublespeak. Friends understood from the beginning that to follow the way of Jesus was to seek peace and pursue it. Our greatest failing in this area is our seeming inability to practice peace with one another. Go and sit in a Friends’ meeting for worship and business and see what happens when a controversial issue arises. Hostile and violent language suddenly erupts. People are condemned and demonized by those who disagree with them. I think of our Amish brothers and sisters and how they dealt with the tragedy at one of their schools a few years ago. How much more effective would our voices be in calling the world to peace and reconciliation if we showed what it was like by practicing it with one another?
3) Equality – All kinds of inequalities still exist among Friends. There are pastoral meetings that would not even consider a woman to be their minister, ironically some that were started by women. There are still meetings where color of skin is an issue and meetings that are accepting of immigrants only if they can speak English, and meetings where people’s sexual orientation is the determining factor as to whether or not they can be members rather than whether or not they love Jesus. What would our future look like if we accepted one another in the same way God accepts us?
4) Integrity – to early Friends this meant living out what they believed daily. I have a favorite quote from Donald Miller’s Blue Like Jazz, “what I believe is not what I say, it’s what I do.” Integrity means just that. I don’t profess to believe things that I don’t practice. I don’t profess to believe something because someone else does, or to please my friends or to be accepted by my community. I believe something because it has been shown to me experientially to be true and right. It’s interesting that therapists and counselors say there is an inverse relationship between argument and belief, that is we tend to argue harder when we feel less sure about the rightness of our position. What would it look like if we were willing for the sake of integrity to admit we could be wrong? What if we lived up only to the Light we actually have and allowed space for others to do the same?
5) Community – a word we confuse with affinity and believe we can only be in community with folks who think and believe exactly as we do. What we all long for and need is real community, a place where we can affirm one another in those things in which we are in unity, respect one another in the places we don’t agree, and love one another regardless. What kind of communities would that produce?
Maybe we really don’t need a new vision, or new mission statements or new purpose. Maybe what we need is to live out these testimonies in our relationships with one another. It was said of the New Testament church and also of early Friends that people were attracted to them because of the love they demonstrated for one another. How different might Quakerism look and how much more impact might we have on the world if the same could be said of us?